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Thursday, 24 March 2005
Happiness in a Haystack
“The chance of finding happiness in a haystack is entirely dependant on who you choose to roll in it with,” [my friend] says. Now there's a thought I can take and run with…
I say the only way you can find happiness by screwing in the hay is if it pricks you on your bare behind. I don’t think he’s wrong, I’m not skeptical of the existence of true and meaningful romantic connections, I just don’t think love is the answer.
And having said that, rolling around naked in the hay is quite probably a very good way to find the needle because you’d cover more surface area. But that’s not the point.
I think it’s wrongly assumed that romantic relationships will make us happy. It’s very rarely happiness that we find, usually the opposite. Yet we actively seek out partners as opposed to lovers or friends. It’s a cultural obsession, a pattern of mistakes. It hasn’t worked for me and hell, it hasn’t worked for him, so why not try something different? DIY happiness - the lifestyle equivalent of masturbation!
There are so many other different kinds of love we don’t appreciate. In relying on a single person to satisfy our every need for intimacy we just increase the odds of malnourishment.
Sometimes the obsession is really more of an addiction. In the case of an addict, is there a placebo or patch you can wear to ease the transition or does it have to be cold turkey? Can taught behaviours be willingly unlearned?
I don’t want to be in love again but this doesn’t mean being alone. I want to surround myself with friendships, companions and people to care for. I would like to avoid high drama and hurt. If happiness is what I’m looking for this seems to be a logical beginning. A life not lacking love by any means, but never a life dependant upon another specific being."
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